Decolonizing Love on Instagram: "This is our definition of hierarchical polyamory. It’s in line with most poly educators. If you have a different definition, please feel free to share . As a decolonizing page we are categorically against hierarchical polyamory. There is no good excuse to practice hierarchy. No one deserves to be disempowered because of a primary’s trauma, ignorance or anything else. It is disrespectful to rank partners. People that say hierarchies are normal because they’re ubiq

Decolonizing Love on Instagram: "What does cheating mean to you as a polyamorist? These are our answers. We agree on most aspects, except for a few. It’s crucial to discuss the definition of cheating in polyamory to prevent misunderstandings and missteps. In polyamorous relationships, just like in monogamous relationships, cheating is primarily defined by the boundaries and agreements set within the relationships. Here’s a general framework for understanding what might constitute cheating in a p

There are 4 main types of romantic jealousy: ✔️ Insecurity ✔️ Comparison or Competition ✔️ Fear of Abandonment ✔️ Distrust 🫣 𝑰𝒏𝒔𝒆𝒄𝒖𝒓𝒊𝒕𝒚 can arise either from our own feelings of lack or not being enough, or from our relationship itself if there aren’t consistent relationship experiences building secure attachment. 🫣 𝑪𝒐𝒎𝒑𝒂𝒓𝒊𝒏𝒈 ourselves to our partner’s other interests is fruitless and can cause envy. We might fear they’re looking for someone better than us when it’s just a d